Month: June, 2016

10 Things I Wish Everyone Knew About Ramadan

Ramadan looks to most people as a month that is exhausting and unbelievably torturous. I can sometimes see why some Muslims complain all day and can’t wait until the sun finally sets. But over the past couple of years, I have come to realize something about Ramadan that is beyond food and water.

Here are 10 things I’ve realized about Ramadan after observing it for many years:

1. Ramadan is not about starvation.

During the daytime hours that we fast, we go about our normal lives working and going to school — we just refrain from food, drink, sex, and provocative behavior such as cursing, backbiting, and rudeness.

Stopping yourself from falling into those practices affords the peace of mind that allows you to think clearly and rationally without being clouded by overwhelming emotions. It allows you to be productive instead of spending time thinking about grievances in your life that can make you angry or depressed.

Ramadan is an opportunity to forgive, let go, and focus on what is most important.

2. We fast from more than food and drink.

You are really fasting from any intense physical desires. You are fasting from anger, sadness, and frustration. Of course, you cannot control what makes you upset, but you can control the way you react to your situations, and that is what the month of Ramadan trains you to do.

Our hearts are fasting from grieving. Our minds take control, rather than our emotions.

3. You shouldn’t feel bad for us.

“Oh my God, you can’t eat for the next 15 hours? Wow, I’m so sorry!” No. Don’t feel sorry. Although fasting can make me sleepy and tired, the return on investment is absolutely thrilling. The feeling of having refrained from activities that usually just feed my ego is very empowering.

Fasting is not just a disconnection between the human body and food. It’s about building a connection between you and God. Between you and your spirit. You are preventing your mind from becoming a slave to your physical body and its desires — that’s powerful.

4. Muslims don’t really fast for 30 days straight.

We actually only fast from dawn until sunset. What many Muslims refer to as the “break” between fasting from one day to the next is what I like to call the time of actual reflection. Going on without food and water for 30 consecutive days will drain you of energy. But the nighttime, which is such a perfect moment, is when you rejuvenate and gain back the stamina to think and look within yourself. This is what I believe this “break” is meant for.

5. There is a spiritual element to Ramadan fasting.

Instead of thinking all day about the exact second the sun will set and counting down the minutes until you hear the call to prayer for sunset coming from your cell phone, you encourage yourself to believe that this is not about eating. By concentrating on only food and water, you are disconnecting your physical desires from your mind — allowing it to only think of the superficial.

Rather, fasting is a discipline that forces you to forget about food and to remember who you are, why you are here, and what you are doing to be the best possible form of yourself.

6. Ramadan doesn’t end after 30 days.

Ramadan is a chance for us to look deeply within ourselves and allow this kind of self-reflection to be carried out into the rest of our lives. It comes once a year as a reminder and as a resource from God, but the opportunities during Ramadan are meant to train you to attain the attributes of self-restraint and self-control that will last a lifetime.

Fasting is also one of the five pillars of Islam. A pillar is something that binds you to God, no matter how distant you may feel from the Most High. A pillar never breaks. It never goes away. It will stay with you forever.

7. Ramadan is about moderation.

When Muslims fast for that long, 16-hour day, it is very tempting to see the sun go down and rush to fill our plates with as much food as we can fit onto it. This is what we do on a normal basis outside of Ramadan. The reality is, our bodies don’t even need this much food to survive.

One of the most powerful things about fasting is our ability to withstand long periods of time without food and water, just like many impoverished people go through on a daily basis. If they can do it, so can we. Limiting our food intake is the way to train our bodies to consume only what is necessary.

Feeding our egos with so much of the material world will never give us the opportunity to seek out only what we need, but keeps us thinking we should have whatever we want.

8. Fasting is good for your health.

According to a 2007 study conducted by the University of California at Berkeley, alternate-day fasting may decrease the risk of cardiovascular disease and cancer, lower diabetes, protect against some effects of Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s diseases, and improve cognitive function. The cognitive function improvement is what I find the most interesting.

According to Dr. Andrew Well of The Arizona Center for Integrative Medicine, fasting is related to the theory of natural selection. “When food is scarce, natural selection would favor those whose memories (‘Where have we found food before?’) and cognition (‘How can we get it again?’) became sharper.”

9. Ramadan is the holiest month of the year.

Ramadan is the month that the Qur’an was revealed to the beloved Prophet Muhammad, may the peace and blessings of God be upon him. The fact that an entire religion that more than 1.7 billion people follow was revealed at this time is something worth celebrating. The word ramadan translates to scorching heat ordryness. The Qur’an, not coincidentally, was revealed at a time when the community’s connection to God was dead. It was nonexistent. The Qur’an revived the spirits of the people.

10. Not everyone has to fast.

There are many exceptions to fasting. If you are ill, pregnant, or still a child who does not yet understand much about the world, you are not required to fast. Although fasting is one of the five pillars of Islam, God is merciful. Islam teaches that the principle is more important than the action.

Fasting is a choice, like all other aspects of being a Muslim, and the decision to commit during Ramadan comes with the desire to conquer yourself. As Buddha once said, “The strongest man is not one that conquers another man, but one that conquers himself.”

Source: http://www.faithstreet.com/onfaith/2015/06/16/10-things-i-wish-everyone-knew-about-ramadan/37172

Marwa Abdelghani

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Reflections on Ramadan: Beyond The Fast

[First presented at the South Valley Islamic Community’s Iftar, Morgan Hill, CA, July 13, 2013.]

When giving religious talks during Ramadan, it is customary to quote the Koran and hadith generously. In deference to those whose tajweed is exquisite and those who are far more knowledgeable on hadith, I will depart from tradition. I do not wish to strain their patience!

Instead I will share my perspective on Ramadan drawing on three sources: one, my earlier experience as a surgeon in an Oregon lumber town; two, the findings from a landmark experiment in social psychology; and three, comparing Ramadan in Malaysia to that in America.

I will also depart from tradition in that being a physician, I will not enumerate the numerous and obvious health benefits to reduced caloric intake, a consequence of fasting.

Surgeon in Oregon

As a young surgeon in Oregon, I treated many workers with severe injuries from the huge local sawmill. To better understand the mechanisms of their injuries, the manager took me on a tour of his factory.

Those massive logs were effortlessly thrown by giant cranes onto steel conveyors with the ease of your tossing away used chopsticks. The logs were then spun around by rollers with studs to be de-barked, much like a housewife peeling carrots. High-speed circular saws would slice the logs back and forth, reducing them to pieces of lumber. If not for the bone-shaking floor vibrations, the high-pitched sound reminded me of a plugged-up vacuum cleaner.

Those pieces were then mechanically sorted and forced through yet more spinning saws to be cut into specified lengths. Then as they rolled to the finishing line they were subjected to the human touch and scrutiny, with pieces that were broken, uneven, or otherwise blemished shunted aside. The final products were then stacked in a special room to be “cured.”

This curing room was quiet and cool, its humidity, temperature and airflow strictly controlled. The lack of noise and vibrations was instantly felt; it was a tranquil oasis in marked contrast to the rest of the mill. On the factory floor we shouted and hand-gestured; in the curing room we whispered and cupped our mouths. Even the rhythm of our walk changed, from brisk noisy strides to soft silent steps, as in a mosque. We feared disturbing the sanctity of the room.

The manager told me that after the stresses of being cut, pushed, spun and thrown around in the mill, the lumber needed “rest time” so they could withstand the inevitable subsequent stresses at the construction sites or furniture factories. Without this curing, the lumber would readily bend, splinter or even break, soiling the factory’s brand.

Now if an inanimate object – wood – has to be “cured” before it faces its next phase of stress, imagine how much more humans would need this time and space. This is what Ramadan means to me; a “time out” so we could pause and reflect after having been through the mill in our regular daily lives!

Plants and trees too need this equivalent change of pace. The forced dormancy of the long cold weather ensures a full bloom come spring, and with that a bountiful harvest. Winter is the plants’ Ramadan.

Children and their Marshmallows

My second thought comes from reading about the Stanford marshmallow study on preschool children. They were each given a marshmallow, with instructions that should they refrain from eating it for 15 minutes, they would be rewarded with an extra one. As expected, some devoured theirs right away, others took longer. Nonetheless there were those who successfully restrained themselves and were thus duly rewarded. The study reveals that marked individual differences towards instant gratification could be discerned at a very early age.

If that was the only conclusion, the study would not be regarded as “one of the most successful behavioral experiments.”

Years later when those kids were of college age, the lead experimenter, prompted by anecdotal accounts, did a follow-up study. It turned out those “impulse controlled” children (those who successfully deferred devouring their treats) did better academically as well as disciplinary-wise in school. Indeed, the ability to delay eating marshmallows was a better predictor of scholastic achievement than IQ tests or parent’s educational level!

This insight is leveraged by enlightened educators. The largest operator of charter schools in America, KIPP (Knowledge is Power Program), emphasized character building as well as a rigorous curriculum. Part of that character building is teaching children the equivalent of not eating their marshmallows right away, to defer their gratifications. The school has been remarkably successful despite its students coming from disadvantaged backgrounds.

This marshmallow study has other and wider implications. If a culture is predisposed to immediate gratification, its members would not likely to save their earnings. The consequent low capital formation (from lack of savings) leads to economic stagnation, the bane of many Third World societies.

The marshmallow study also helps explain why those who acquire wealth through inheritance, lottery, or preferential treatment rarely keep it while those who acquire it through hard work do. The latter have self-discipline – key to their success – and more importantly, to maintaining that success.

If the ability to delay devouring marshmallows for fifteen minutes among preschoolers is strongly associated with later academic and other successes, imagine the good if we could delay it for the entire daylight hours! That is the value and significance of Ramadan; to instill self-discipline and acquire the habit of delayed gratification.

That this trait could be detected as early as the preschool age suggests that it is more “nature” than “nurture,” or stated differently, more genetic than environmental. This is reinforced by an earlier study (substituting candies for marshmallows) comparing Black and Indian (subcontinent) children in Jamaica. As a group, the Black children had difficulty restraining themselves. Another significant variable was the absence of a father in the house. Surprisingly, socio-economic status was not a factor. In Jamaica there are significant differences in the economic, educational and other achievements between those two ethnic groups.

In a recent twist to this classic study, the children were first “primed,” and using crayons instead of marshmallows. They were randomly assigned into a “reliable” or “unreliable” group. In both, the children were each given a bag of crayons with instructions that if they were not to open it until the supervisor returned, they would be given, in addition, a bigger and newer set.

For the “reliable” group, the supervisor would duly return, and as promised the successful children were rewarded. For the “unreliable” group however, the adult would return but apologize profusely for not being able to bring the promised bigger and newer bag to those who had been successful.

This crayon experiment was then repeated, this time using stickers. This done, the two groups were tested as per the original marshmallow study.

Nine of the 14 children in the “reliable” group successfully delayed eating their marshmallows, as compared to only one in the “unreliable” group. Children in the “reliable” group also waited longer (four times more) than those in the “unreliable” group before eating their treats.

This suggests that we can train our young to delay their gratification; meaning, we can effectively instill self-discipline at a very young age. This tilts the balance towards “nurture” over “nature,” contrary to the Jamaican data. For this training to be effective however, you must first establish an atmosphere of trust. The children must first have faith in the adults of their lives.

Relating to Ramadan, when we encourage our young to fast, we are training them to delay their gratification; we are instilling self-discipline.

There is yet another insight to the marshmallow study, and it comes not from the quantitative data rather from directly observing those children. The “impulse controlled” kids were busy actively distracting themselves as with singing, sitting on their hands (lest they be tempted to grab the marshmallow), closing their eyes, or kneading their skirts, analogous to mythical Greek sailors stuffing their ears with bee’s wax and Ulysses tying himself to the mast to restrain themselves from the call of the Siren song.

Relating this to Ramadan, it is easier to fast if we are working or otherwise occupied. Indeed, the Koran and hadith exhort us not to sleep or idle ourselves when fasting. That would be makhruh (non-meritorious). Instead we are to continue on with our daily routine.

Fasting in a Muslim Versus Secular Society

Last, I draw from my experience of Ramadan in a religiously-obsessed society, Malaysia, versus in a secular Western one, America.

In Malaysia, the moral squads are out in full force during Ramadan. If you are caught not fasting, you will be paraded around town in a hearse (to remind you of death), quite apart from being fined, jailed or even whipped. Never mind that you may be a diabetic or had just stepped off a trans-Pacific flight. This cruel punitive streak, alas far too common, is the antithesis of the Ramadan spirit.

Malaysians must fast; it is the law and not as it should be, a matter of faith and personal conviction. Consequently, the spiritual value is often missed, or worse, corrupted as manifested by culinary extravaganzas and ostentatious piety. Malaysians simply rearrange their gluttony from daytime to nighttime. Ramadan’s spirit of restraint is conspicuous by its absence, and its replacement with exuberant excesses.

Fasting in America poses its own challenges. Your co-workers having their usual lunches and the ubiquitous tantalizing food commercials aside, there is the matter of the seasons. When in Canada and Ramadan was in midsummer (nearly 24 hours of daylight), I wrote my father of my theological dilemma. He gently reminded me that fasting is not Allah’s torture test and that if it is too stressful then I should follow Malaysian time. My late father grasped intuitively the essence of Ramadan. May Allah bless his soul for that wise and practical counsel!

Obsessed with the rituals, Malaysians have reduced fasting to a series of acts to accumulate religious Brownie points. Fasting is more than a ritual; it is a process. As important as fasting is, the greater import is where it would take us. It should take us to heightened faith and greater compassion. It should take us deeper into the revelation of the Koran, for it was during this holy month that our Prophet Mohammad, s.a.w., first received his revelation from Allah.

Fasting is good not because the Koran says so, rather fasting is good and that is why the Koran exhorts us to observe Ramadan.

Source: http://www.bakrimusa.com/archives/reflections-on-ramadan-beyond-the-fast

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